When you think of Thanksgiving what images come to mind? Is it family and friends coming together? Is it Turkey and cranberries spread out on a beautiful dining table?
Well I certainly did imagine these things and had them for the past years, which makes this year a really odd one. Today, on Thanksgiving day, I am spending it alone. No people around and certainly no Turkey.
Sounds sad right?
But it is quite the contrary, and that is why I am writing to you today with the simple message that being alone and at peace is one of the biggest blessings.
I can imagine your face shifted and your thoughts were: what is this crazy woman saying.. hold on and read on.
When one is alone in this very noise, busy and modern world, one can gain deep insights into where they are emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. When you are alone and I mean truly alone, not trying to drown out your alone(ness) with noise and distractions from social media and TV, you are forced to be with your true current self.
For some the thought of being alone is scary, and for those people especially that time is crucial because
running away from yourself is so short-lived, temporary and unsustainable.
I used to be one of those people who couldn’t be alone years ago and for me instead of drowning myself in social media noise, I dived deep into work. I worked day and night so I won’t have to be alone. I had a dial list of people who I would call up if I had to spend some time alone and go out, get tired then head home only to sleep.
But then I was forced, literally, to be alone.
I became semi-paralyzed for years and spent many fearful nights at home bed ridden. Some of these nights were the scariest of my life because I had no distractions and had to face myself.
To make a long-story short, I was forced to do the inner work. I worked through my inner insecurities, learnt how to let go and most importantly learnt how to love being me and being with me. I learnt at the end of the day we will all die by ourselves. We won’t die walking into heaven (or hell) with our loved ones, or our neighbors or our boss.
We will be walking in by our individual selves, so why only learn how to walk by ourselves once we die? Why not start learning how to do that in a healthy way while we are still alive?
So back to today, back to Thanksgiving day.
I sit alone not out of choice, it was out of circumstance and I certainly hope that next year I will be able to spend it with loved ones, with a beautiful community and ofcourse plenty of Turkey.
But what I am deeply proud of within myself, is that I feel a deep sense of fulfillment rather than lack despite being alone on this holiday.
I am fulfilled because I know circumstances do not define who I am today.
I am fulfilled because I am content with who I am today.
I am fulfilled because I am proud of where I am today.
I am fulfilled because I love who I am today.
I am fulfilled because I have hope and a huge heart that believes that things such as family to spend Thanksgiving with will come in due time.
So if you are alone on Thanksgiving or any other day, my advice to you is to celebrate that day because you are with the most important person you need to be with — You. I hope you get to know You quickly because life before we know it will flash before our eyes.
Make it count in whatever way you can.
With Love (and a happy heart),